I just came across this post about mourning for one’s perpetrator. This is certainly a complicated loss. It is not uncommon to know one’s perpetrator well, and the relationship is usually not simple. We might have loved him or her deeply, which makes the abuse even harder to come to terms with. For some, the […]
I just read this article which describes a unique complex loss. How does one mourn and cope after accidentally causing the death of another human being? This type of complex loss was not on my radar before seeing this article, and I guess that is not surprising. The article explains that there are no self help books for […]
My Mom is selling the home where she lived for the last 25 years. All of my final memories of my Dad are there. His chair still sits at the dining rom table, and I remember the good times as well as the last days of his illness. This home bore witness to it all. […]
My 14 year old black lab, Zora, died this week. I feel sick about it. It is hard for me to express what Zora meant to me, or to sum up who she was. She was my first dog. She had soft ears, like velvet. She loved everyone, and would snort happily when you pet […]
Earlier this month an article in the NY Times caught my eye. Written by Jane E. Brody, it was entitled “When a Partner Dies, Grieving the Loss of Sex.” It explained that the loss of physical intimacy is often a disenfranchised loss because we simply do not discuss it with friends or therapists. “Sexual Bereavement” is […]